Just Give it to God

Just Give It to God? What That Really Means for Healing

You’ve heard it before. Maybe from a well-meaning friend, a church leader, or even from your own lips: “Just give it to God.”

It sounds simple, even spiritual. But if you’ve ever been deeply wounded, you know it’s not that easy. Pain doesn’t just disappear when we say a prayer. Broken trust isn’t instantly mended. The weight of grief, betrayal, or disappointment doesn’t always lift just because we want it to.

So, what does it really mean to give something to God? And how do we do it in a way that leads to true healing rather than just suppressing our pain?

The Challenge: When Letting Go Feels Impossible

For many, “giving it to God” feels like a vague, impossible task. Does it mean we should stop thinking about our pain? Does it mean we shouldn’t feel sad, angry, or overwhelmed? Does it mean we shouldn’t seek help because that would mean we’re not trusting Him enough?

No. Healing is not about ignoring pain but walking through it with God. Jesus never dismissed people’s wounds—He saw them, touched them, and brought restoration. When He said, “Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life” (Matthew 11:28, MSG), He was inviting us into a process.

A New Approach: Giving It to God with Intention

Rather than treating “giving it to God” as a one-time act, think of it as an ongoing posture—one that includes action, surrender, and trust. Here’s how:

1. Acknowledge the Pain (Don’t Dismiss It)

Before we can give something to God, we have to be honest about what we’re carrying. That means allowing ourselves to name the hurt, the fear, the grief. David did this repeatedly in the Psalms: “I’m tired of all this—so tired. My bed has been floating forty days and nights on the flood of my tears” (Psalm 6:6, MSG).

God isn’t afraid of our raw emotions. In fact, He invites them.

2. Express It: Journaling and Prayer

Instead of trying to suppress or rush past pain, try writing it down or praying through it. Start with, “God, I don’t know how to let go of this, but I need Your help.” Writing out a letter to God can help you release what’s heavy, offering your thoughts and feelings to Him in a tangible way.

3. Seek Wise Counsel

Healing isn’t meant to be a solo journey. God places people in our lives—counsellors, mentors, trusted friends—to help us process and move forward. Proverbs 11:14 reminds us, “Without good direction, people lose their way; the more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances” (MSG).

If you feel stuck, consider seeking support through counselling. A compassionate listener can help you process emotions in a safe and faith-filled way.

4. Create a “Surrender Ritual”

Sometimes we need a physical act to represent an internal release. Try writing down what you’re holding onto—fear, betrayal, resentment—then tear up the paper, burn it, or place it in a ‘God Box’ as a symbol of surrender. These small acts can remind us that we are continuously placing our burdens into His hands.

5. Trust the Process (Not Just the Outcome)

Letting go isn’t a one-time decision; it’s a daily practice. There will be moments when the pain resurfaces. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed or that God isn’t working—it simply means healing is unfolding step by step. Jesus promised, “I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it” (Matthew 11:29, MSG). Healing isn’t about rushing—it’s about walking with Him.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

If you’re struggling to give it to God and need guidance on your healing journey, you’re not alone. Our online counselling services provide a safe, faith-based space to process your pain, find clarity, and move forward with hope.

Healing is possible. And step by step, with intention and support, you will find your way forward.

If this resonates with you, reach out for online counselling support today. You don’t have to carry this alone.