Online Counselling for Women After Sexual Harm or Abuse

Australia-wide | Trauma-Informed | Confidential

If something happened that crossed a line — even if you’re not sure how to name it — you’re not alone.

Sexual harm can be difficult to speak about.

Sometimes it was obvious.
Sometimes it was subtle.
Sometimes it happened long ago.
Sometimes it happened within a relationship that was meant to be safe.

You may still be asking yourself:

“Was it really that bad?”
“Why does it still affect me?”
“Why can’t I just move on?”

If something left you feeling unsafe, confused, ashamed, disconnected, or destabilised — it matters.

You don’t have to minimise it here.

You are not weak for being affected.
Your nervous system responded to something overwhelming.

You Might Recognise Yourself In This

Women often arrive feeling:

  • shame or self-blame that doesn’t seem to go away

  • anxiety, panic, or sudden emotional flooding

  • disconnection from their body or emotions

  • difficulty trusting others — or themselves

  • fear around intimacy or closeness

  • confusion about consent or what “counts” as abuse

  • exhaustion from holding it together quietly

You may be functioning outwardly — working, parenting, caring for others — while something inside still feels unsettled.

How Counselling Works Here

This is not a space where you are required to retell everything.

We begin with:

• stabilising the nervous system
• rebuilding emotional safety
• strengthening internal clarity and agency
• reducing shame and self-blame
• restoring a sense of choice and boundaries

If and when you choose to explore parts of your story, we do so gently, collaboratively, and at your pace.

You remain in control of:

  • what we discuss

  • how deeply we go

  • when we pause

  • what feels safe

There is no pressure to disclose details before you are ready.

What Healing Can Begin to Look Like

Over time, many women move from:

hypervigilance → steadier nervous system responses
shame → self-compassion
confusion → clarity
self-doubt → self-trust
disconnection → grounded embodiment
survival mode → intentional living

Healing does not erase what happened.

It restores your sense of safety, identity, and strength beyond it.

A Brief Introduction

Qualified Counsellor | Trauma-Informed | Online

Hi, I’m Amanda. 🤍

I support women navigating the impact of betrayal, abuse, and relational harm using a calm, structured, and collaborative approach.

My qualifications include:

  • BA (Psychology)

  • Postgraduate Certificate (Human Services)

  • Diploma of Counselling

  • Diploma of Holistic Integrated Creative Arts Therapy

  • Registered Counsellor — Australian Counselling Association (ACA)

I engage in ongoing professional supervision, training, and ethical practice in line with ACA standards.

Alongside private counselling, I also develop resources and provide consultation for aftercare teams supporting survivors of exploitation.

My work is grounded in:

  • trauma-informed practice

  • narrative and strengths-based therapy

  • stabilisation-first approaches

  • consent, collaboration, and pacing

  • neurodivergent-affirming care

You will not be judged.
You will not be rushed.
You will not be pushed to “forgive” or “move on.”

We focus on safety first.

Common Questions & Concerns

It’s completely normal to have questions, doubts, or hesitations — especially when seeking support for something deeply personal.

“I’m not sure if what happened counts as abuse.”

Many women struggle with naming their experience.
If something left you feeling unsafe, pressured, silenced, confused, or violated — it deserves gentle attention.

You don’t need a perfect label to begin.


“Will I have to go into graphic details?”

No.

You decide what you share and when.
Stabilisation and safety come first.


“What if it happened a long time ago?”

Trauma responses don’t follow a timeline.
If it still affects your sense of safety or identity, it is relevant.


“What if I stayed in the relationship?”

Staying does not invalidate your experience.
Trauma, attachment, fear, dependency, and hope are complex.

This is a space for understanding — not judgement.


“What if I feel numb?”

Numbness is often a protective response.
We move gently, respecting your system’s pace.

What Counselling Is Like Here

Sessions are:

  • online and confidential

  • structured yet responsive

  • focused on safety and practical steadiness

  • paced according to your capacity

You are not required to:

  • commit long-term immediately

  • relive everything at once

  • be emotionally expressive

  • decide what to do about relationships

You remain in control.

A Gentle Way to Begin

First Steps Session – 30 minutes | $50

A structured introductory session designed to:

  • understand what’s been weighing on you

  • offer immediate stabilisation

  • clarify whether ongoing counselling feels right

There is no pressure to continue.
Just space to begin safely.

Book Your First Session →

If You Need Immediate Support

If you are currently unsafe or in immediate danger, please contact:

Triple Zero (000)

24/7 crisis support in Australia:

Lifeline – 13 11 14
Suicide Call Back Service – 1300 659 467
1800RESPECT (sexual assault & domestic violence support) – 1800 737 732

This counselling service is not a crisis service.